Responsibility

This week the question is a powerful one:

Are you responsible for the happiness of others?

Do you sacrifice your own happiness for someone else’s sake and convince yourself it’s ok?

Do you feel guilty if you the actions you take make you happy but cause someone else to feel unhappy?

Do you know what it means to be really authentically happy or do you seek happiness in the world around you, or from material things or people?

Whilst material things, people and the world around you can keep you captivated temporarily, it will not make you happy in the long run.

Often this type of being “happy” is momentary and not real as it wears off and the same vacuum exists that requires something to fill it.

True happiness comes from within and when we act upon what we need to be happy, and we acknowledge our desires, sometimes someone else is unhappy as a result.

Most people do not understand the meaning of happiness and because no one likes conflict, there is often a lot of guilt present when we are happy at someone else’s expenses.

What does this mean?

How easy is it to make a decision that causes you happiness, such as leaving a relationship that has been a struggle behind and now your partner is unhappy and even blames you?

How often do you sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of someone else, you make a decision to please them, but what you are really doing is betraying yourself!

Can you see areas in your life where you do this?

Maybe you feel you don’t deserve to be happy or desire all the things that you want. If you give more to yourself whether love, time, money, food or nurturing do you feel this takes away from someone else?

The first thing that you need to realize is that happiness is available and is meant to be for all of us. Our angels and the universe wants us to live fulfilled lives and the more joyful we are, the higher our energy vibrates and the more connected we are to the Divine energy and the fulfillment of our wishes.

Unhappiness is disconnecting from this wonderful gift that we have been given, it lowers the vibration and shuts out the light and it is not what our souls are here to experience.

We deserve all the goodness and no one is responsible for the happiness of another, and we should always make decisions that are not at our expense.

We can choose to be happy and are responsible for our own decisions as we let others be responsible for their happiness. We can be there to be supportive, we can love others unconditionally but we cannot do it for them, or take on the part of being the enabler for their happiness.

This is very important to be aware of. It takes boundaries that are healthy within ourselves so that others do not take advantage. Learning to say no when these boundaries are compromised goes a long way to happiness.

We often see in our world betrayal by others and wonder why we have attracted this.

If this rings a bell, then see the world as your mirror and ask yourself where you have compromised yourself for others and where you have through your actions or inactions betrayed yourself.

Remember that the world mirrors back at you a distorted reflection that is often intense so that you will sit up and take note.

Do you feel guilty about how others will react to your actions and feelings?

You may need to dig deep to find the nugget of wisdom that always comes through these lessons, if you feel confused and cannot see where you may be compromising yourself and your joy, then sit with it and the answers will come.

The more you go inward and take responsibility for your thoughts, your feelings, your actions and therefore your happiness, the more you will feel an ease on the burden that may be weighing on your shoulders to do with your partner, friends, children, colleagues or family.

Make a list of all the people in your life and next to their names write down a few words about your relationship to them, by asking yourself if you feel responsible for their happiness. If you do, then allow yourself to release it and change the way you interact with them.

It may mean taking a position of power and standing up for yourself, however it is the only way that you will be able to release co dependency and unhealthy patterns that ultimately make you unhappy.

Use this week to focus on yourself, and be responsible for your happiness only and if this requires of you to take some action, be brave and have the courage to do so. If it means speaking up or acting with awareness, then do so. You do not have to feel guilty for your happiness or for how much you want.

This kind of thinking comes from a place of lack. It is an illusion that there are limits and it is up to you to break free from these restraints. Are you ready?

Happiness is your birthright and each moment can be joyful however this is your choice and in that you have free will.

Always, always do what is right for you and do so with honesty and integrity. It is not always possible to please everyone and sometimes others will react and feel rejected, hurt, offended and angry however if you have acted in a way that is authentic and honest, you are not responsible for the feelings others feel. That is their lesson to learn.

Have a blessed week